Do not COMPARE!

You need to realize that each person you date has strengths and weaknesses and therefore refrain from comparing your current partner to your exes – especially unfavorably. Just because an ex was unfaithful does not mean that another partner will be so too. A good partner puts the past in perspective and doesn’t constantly bring up reminders from the past that serve no valuable purpose in the present. Such as something their partner did months or years earlier. Move on!

Empathy

The ideal partner perceives their mate on both an intellectual, observational level and an emotional, intuitive level. This person is able to both understand and empathize with his or her partner. When two people in a couple understand each other, they become aware of the commonalities that exist between them and also recognize and appreciate their differences. When both partners are empathetic, that is, capable of communicating with feeling and with respect for the other person's wants attitudes, and values, each partner feels understood and validated. Developing our ability to be empathetic helps us understand and attune to our partner.

“Empathy is truly the heart of the relationship,” said Carin Goldstein, a licensed marriage and family therapist.
“Without it, the relationship will struggle to survive.” That’s because empathy requires compassion. And, without compassion, couples can’t develop a bond.

This is how one can enhance empathy:

1. Give your partner genuine attention.
2. Practice loving-kindness.
3. Be self compassionate.
4. Seek out the positive. 
   

Positive Attitude Toward Life

Love is a positive force: It thrives in an atmosphere of positivity and starves in an atmosphere of negativity. Negative people always focus on the problems, and resist solutions. They always find something or someone to complain about, allow fear and worry to rule them, are cynical and pessimistic about the future and don't trust easily.

 

However positive people always focus on finding the solution, turn obstacles into opportunities and adversity into lessons, trust in their ability to make a difference, believe that things can always get better and use their vision to change the reality. 

It is always important to be positive towards life and by this we bring positive energy in a relationship. Here are questions to ask yourself about a positive attitude toward life:

• Do you believe things always turn out for the best? 
• What are some of the most important lessons you've learned about pain in your life?
• When lots of things go wrong at once, how do you react?What goes on in your mind?